video amy cuddy mentions H u m a n i t i e s
]Mastering nonverbal communication can help tremendously in anyone’s professional and personal life, because nonverbal communication conveys more than verbal communication does. Nonverbal actually converys 66-90 percent of our communication. Learning how your actions and little things that people take from you can help you insure you’re putting the right message across. It’s not always what you say to a person that gives them a certain message, it’s the unspoken physical and behavioral cues, the book states. The main cues that give off the biggest nonverbal message is appearance, kinesics, eye contact, facial expressions, haptics, paralanguage, and proxemics. In your professional life it’s very important you convey the right message that will secure your future in the profession, not damage it. You want to come off professional so you will dress and act a certain way in the job area then you normally would otherwise. This will make people respect you in the work area. Having proper posture and facial expressions will give strong impressions to people. In the book it says when you walk with shoulders back, spines erect, and heads up you are perceived as confident and strong. Although these little things seem mindless, it will take you great lengths in your career. In the video Amy Cuddy mentions how body language can be a reason you get promoted, it can also show power and dominance. For your personal life, sending incongruent messages or wrong messages in general can create a lot of drama and chaos. Unlike the workplace, people in your personal life will probably be more emotional towards your nonverbal cues you give them. Incongruent messages are when your verbal and nonverbal meaning contradict each other. This can lead to a lot of unnecessary confusion. In this case, people instantly go with the nonverbal cues, which could be the worse of the two. By giving off positive nonverbal cues, you can create a closer, more open relationship with people.
I found the whole article, Scents and sensibility very interesting. I’ve always known people are drawn to things they like by their scent, but never realized how that desire can lead you to pick a soulmate. I don’t know how much I believe in olfactics being a type of nonveral connection. Although you can help your scent with perfume, deodorant, or cologne there’s not much that can help your natural scent. I think olfactics is more of a mindset or attraction. The article mentions how it’s like a drug someone is drawn to, it says, “when you’re turned on by your partner’s scent, taking a deep whiff of his chest or the back of her neck feels like taking a powerful drug.” I view nonverbal communication as something you have much more control over in the moment. However, I do agree that someone’s scent can tell a lot about someone, or give them some type of communication. From the scent a person can assume, or take what they think from it.
Developing your nonverbal communication knowledge and skills can substantially influence your future in positive ways. Doing so will allow you to have better connections with others both in your personal life and your professional life. The massive amount of information we share nonverbally proves the importance of fully understanding this phenomenon. The most important lesson I learned from the TED Talk is the message of “Fake it until you become it.” In order to do this, one must reject the idea that he or she does not belong in a particular stressful situation. If he or she does not think he or she belongs there, it is necessary to fake it until he or she becomes comfortable enough to feel that he or she actually belongs there. This method is all about building confidence. Having such confidence can help you get a wonderful job or even help you ask someone out for a date. Any way you slice it, “Faking it until you become it’’ can vastly expand one’s horizons.
The video mentioned power poses as a source of confidence in stressful situations. Simply taking two minutes to assume a power pose before an important stressful situation can boost your confidence and in turn, your results. Combine these power poses with “Fake it until you become it” and you have a recipe for success.
Our text defines nonverbal communication as the transmission of meaning through an individual’s nonspoken physical and behavioral cues. Nonverbal communication is just that- nonverbal. This type of information sharing is not transmitted through speech but instead through body language, voice, touch, personal space, appearance, and environmental features. Learning how to tune these systems can lead to unimaginable gain both in your personal and professional life.
I absolutely believe olfactics is a nonverbal system of communication. I believe it fits the criteria of a nonverbal communication system as described in chapter six. This system conveys information to a potential partner without speaking a single word. Sharing this information is especially important as it has the ability to affect your long-term personal life. I personally believe that olfactics is not a pseudo-science and should be investigated more in-depth to reveal its true importance.